In part three of Flirt Diva's seduction guide, we look at three crucial cornerstones of being a great date: Confidence, Cheekiness and Charm. Read on to find out how remembering these three Cs can help you out on a date.
The three Cs are all about keeping things moving, staying positive and ultimately making them want you. The more you use personal stories, silly jokes and fun, fluffy banter, the more you will inject life, texture, colour and imagery into your flirt routine.
It's the tone of your voice, the twinkle in your eye, the extra little bit of 'sparkle'. We're looking for good energy. It's not what you say, but how you say it. The more voice variations, facial expressions and animation you bring to your chat, the more visually interesting you will become.
The key is having the right attitude. That means knowing what you've got to offer, and putting it out there.
Great conversational skill allows you to talk to anyone, but even more important is being able to listen. They say that people with the ability to listen are the sexiest people alive. Do you know how sexy it is to tell us about all yourself and your interests?
Not as sexy as if you shut up and listen.
The ability to express yourself confidently, whether it's one-on-one, in a group, or in front of a crowd will have an startling effect on your social diary and your love life. So, as a vital part of your plan of attack, you need to conjure up some razzamatazz. Kick-start the process by having a good, hard look at your social style: is your banter is full of beans when you're with your best friends, but non-existent the minute you meet new people? Or, does the challenge of meeting strangers give you verbal diarrhoea? If you're not cutting it because your banter is falling as flat as a glass of warm wine, don't let it be your Achilles heel, knuckle down and work on it instead.
Step-by-Step Guide:
1. Use the big topics of the moment to keep conversations fizzing along. It's never been easier than right now. We're heading into the festive season; we've got the holidays coming up with New Years to plan. Use the festive spirit to keep your conversations light and fun.
2. Use 'tag' questions to find out more. For instance, 'I usually go home to my parents' for Christmas, what about you, what are your plans?'
3. Use locations. So if you were to meet at a bar in Piccadilly Circus, find out more about someone by saying something like: 'I would normally be in my neighbourhood, North London on a Friday night. What about you - where's your favourite area to go out?
4. Stay focused on the positives at all times. Lose the temptation to whinge about your boss, your job and especially, the greatest taboo of all, your ex!
5. Have a stash of light-hearted stories up your sleeve, all the better if they make you look a bit silly - we're British, we love that!
6. Skill up by calling in the professionals. Try comedy classes, acting lessons or Toastmaster sessions to give you the confidence to speak comfortably in any situation.