And so this is Christmas...Now that silly season is in full swing, ladies, prepare your stations: Flirt Diva Sue Ostler wants you to focus on the 3 Ps: Poise. Posture. Personality!
Be aware of how you're sitting and standing, and the moment you spot someone fanciable, focus on giving off enough Green Light Signals to ignite a Christmas tree. Work that eye-contact; throw out the light, fluffy banter and show off the kind of body language that screams - confidence! The more you do, the more your flirt-buddy likely is likely to respond.
Let's do a checklist: How are your shoulders? They should be sat back nice and straight, no slumping thanks! Tummy in and chest out- you'll feel leaner and sexier in an instant!
Keep your body language open - arms by your side, expressive, animated - none of this folded arms business, you'll only look tired, defensive and cold! Don't be afraid to use your hands to flesh out your stories and add life.
Lean in as the conversation becomes more intimate and tilt your mouth towards his ear when you're talking the talk. Create a bubble between the two of you and block out the rest of the room. Once you're in your private little zone, let your sassy body language do the rest.
Step-by-Step Guide:
1. When emphasising a point, gradually move in closer and tilt your mouth towards his ear when you speak and then, step back and look right into his eyes. Shazam!
2. Lean in and do the 'touchy-feelies': a pat on his wrist here, a playful punch there. Gotcha!
3. Draw attention to certain body parts. Put your hands on your hips, your fingers on your lips, cross and re-cross your legs. Grrrr!
4. Showcase your best assets with shiny accessories: show-stopping necklaces, blinging belts and the funkiest, sexiest tights on the planet. Whoa!
Is he playing the game?
1. Watch his eye-contact, does he linger for just a second longer than normal. If he's getting meaningful eye-contact from you - he should be giving it back!
2. Study his stance: If you're leaning in towards him, then he should lean in also. Watch which way his feet are pointing - at this stage of the game, they should be towards you!
3. Is he doing the 'touchy-feelies' back? If you instigate a fun game of the touchy-feelies by giving him a playful pat, he should return the gesture. Take note!
4. Look at the position of his lower body, if it's facing towards you, you'll know he's into this. If it's facing the other way, watch out, he could be getting ready to do a runner!
5. Try to keep it relaxed and act the same way you would when you're with your besties - because that's when you're most natural and charming. Anyone can smell a fake. You don't need to be nervous because, guess what? He's probably nervous enough for the both of you! Keep it real, keep it fun and remember to pay attention to how he's reacting. Most important!
6. Golden rule, monkey see, monkey do - not drunkey see-drunkey do! You'll never cut it as a tipsy flirt, no matter how sexy you think you are. By all means get into the Xmas spirit but - remember, tipsy is the new black, not being absolutely blathered.
