Fairy tale…what frigging fairy tale?

Natalie Lue writes...

So Josephine Cox, popular peddler of women’s fiction is suddenly starting to wonder if authors like her “have unwittingly failed a whole generation of women by seducing them with false ideals of love and romance...”. Later in the same article she says “So many books and films feature main characters who are perfect (heroes strongly chiselled, heroines porcelainlike and perfect in face and figure) that I worry they may give an unrealistic definition of what the perfect partner and partnership SHOULD be.” No sh*t Sherlock…!

If you imagine that most women have been spoon fed complete doo doo from the fairy tale world since before they were able to speak, is it any surprise that many women subconsciously expect some guy to come blazing in on his proverbial white horse and whisk her off into sunset? Instead we are confronted with a long line of commitment-phobic, emotionally unavailable assclowns on broken down donkey’s who whisk us off for booty calls and relationships that never get out the gate. Worse thing though is that we have such high, unrealistic expectations of what to expect from relationships and men that are inherently built into us that we’re often sabotaging relationships with prospects because we expect fireworks and the types of ups and downs and soulmate crap that comes with romantic comedies. I always felt sorry for that generation of prostitutes that thought that there may be a Richard Gere ending in the offing…

What’s interesting about Josephine’s own tale of love is that she admits that despite a fairy tale like meeting they “had to work hard at the relationship and there were times when we came under the most appalling strain.”

I wouldn’t claim that fairy tales are entirely responsible for 11 million single and divorced women in Britain (there are a number of reasons) but what I will say is that there are many women AND men that believe that relationships happen and that they don’t have to be worked at. I come across hundreds of women every week through my blogs that chase emotionally unavailable and commitment-phobic men and many of them are dining off a fairy tale that won’t make it further than their heads. I have said many a time that the stories and the romantic comedies don’t tell you what happens after the ending. If you met up with these characters a year, five, or ten years on, they’d probably be bitching about the fact that his dirty underpants can’t make it to the washbasket, the bills are mounting up, the sex has fizzled out, and he’s been checking out online dating sites for a footloose and fancy free extra marital affair…

It’s far too late to do a complete u-turn on the type of fiction that’s marketed to women, and whilst I’m not averse to reading plenty of it myself, wouldn’t it be nice if we could have some more realistic tales where the woman doesn’t end up with a vision of perfection at the end? Oh…but that wouldn’t make it fiction…

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Natalie Lue is an ex-commitment-phobe and knows all to well that real life really isn't like the fairy tale!

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