Can you politely blank a "Mean Girl" without looking like a bitch?
Cate Sevilla writes...
Now, I hate to sound like a flaming hypocrite, but for as much as I love women, am a feminist and believe that somewhere in the universe a Sisterhood does exist - I've yet to find it. In fact, I would go as far to say that girls friggin' suck. Not all girls, but you know what I'm talking about. Those girls. That girl. The girls that have no problem talking to everyone but you at a dinner party, will wave and say hi to your boyfriend, and walk right past you without batting an eye.
Tonight, I have the pleasure of going out for drinks with a group of people I adore - however, a rather unpleasant girl will be there who has made it rather well known that she has a problem with me. (Online, in person, drunk and sober.) I'd like to think I'm a rather mature person. If I'm in the same room as someone I don't like, I'll still say hi to them and fake it in the name of politeness. But tonight, with this particular infuriating, petty girl, I'm not sure I can manage.
Advice books like The Fabulous Girls Guide to Decorum advise that when running into a girl you don't like (like your boyfriend's ex girlfriend) you try to make her feel small. You know, forget her name, "Oh, and you are?" In movies like Mean Girls we learn plenty of tricks and snide comments that look good on film, but would probably get you bitch slapped in real life. So what's a girl to do when the thought of being polite and friendly with someone who has repeatedly talked shit about you, and treated you like crap, is unbearable?
I hate to be immature, but the thought of carrying on a fake conversation, or even being in the same room as this woman makes me want to tear out my eyeballs. (Or throw ketchup covered chips at her big, stupid head.) I know I'll probably conduct myself by having a good time and pretending she's not in the room, but I can't help but wonder if everyone else is going to pick up on the fact that I'm ignoring her, shout "CAAAAT FIIIIGHT!!" and cause a gossipy fuss.
It just doesn't seem that in social situations one girl can legitimately have a problem and not get on with another girl without becoming The Bitch causing The Drama. Do men have to deal with this shit? Do men care if someone they don't like is going to be at the same pub as them? I'm guessing not. And I'm also guessing no one else is going to care if Joe isn't talking to Bob.
I tell ya, sometimes I wish I were like a boy.
Cate Sevilla is the Editor of Dollymix. She doesn't really think all girls suck. Just about 75% of the ones she's met.
Ok - take the intelectual high ground... gen up on all sorts of random interesting facts and subjects and make sure at least two of the people you're going out with is at the same clever-level. Proceed to talk shit about really clever stuff, then bring it down by quoting lines from Anchorman (http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=ebga08rRST0) - thus the unfunny bitch will be well and truly pwned - hah!
(Sorry, having the same sitch with a colleague here, getting richeously angry now)
Posted by: Llefenni | September 13, 2007 2:18 PM